5 things I learned from my wedding

1. You might feel like a jerk, but you aren't a jerk.

Its just not possible to get to everyone. I think I got to about 70% and I was really trying my hardest to spend time with all of the guests. Bride and groom have a lot going on the day of. Pictures, vows, signing the license, toasts, throwing flowers, garter, dances, oh and getting hitched. Just know from the beginning, its not possible to get around to everyone beyond a simple "Hello" and "Thank you for coming." We felt bad, but trust me, people understand.

2. Realize that you probably won't get a chance to see these same people again.

For me, its rare that I see most of my family. We are all spread out! So the next time you see Uncle Nathan or Auntie Carol or your great Aunt Ida might not be in such a happy and positive way. Its very possible that the next time you are all together is at a funeral. So enjoy this time together.

3. Most of the stuff we think matters, doesn't matter at all.

Aside from the basics like flowers, colors, song choices, decorations, tables, tablecloths, chairs, rentals, DJ, dance floors, etc. The stuff that happens at the wedding, who's doing what, where people are suppose to be when, who signs the guest list, who gets the right picture. These thing just don't matter. They can even be considered a distraction from what really matters, that is, to bring glory to God by joining two souls together. Forever. And funny things that happen, which most would consider a mistake, are what make it memorable. Like the bridesmaid forgetting to bring the grooms ring. That one ends up funny. Oh and make sure to watch the faces of the people in the crowd as soon as the pastor says it!

4. Slow down. In everything.

Take your time. Remember. You only do this once. Even when it comes to cutting the cake together, its kind of awkward because everyone is watching and trying to take pictures and you are just thinking, "Just put some delicious cake in my mouth!" or "Take me away from here!" But take the time to be cheesy and cut it together. Pose for the extra picture that Grandma is trying to take with a phone she doesn't know how to use. And Laugh. A lot.

5. The wedding is simply a day.

The rest is now. And I couldn't be more excited. But if you spend all your time, effort, and talents getting ready for the wedding, you are going to miss a beautiful part of what a marriage is. Forget the wedding. Elope. Make it simple. Keep it small. Preserve the intimate moments. Average wedding is above $30,000. That's stupid. No other way to put it. What are you going to spend $30,000 on?! Flowers dipped in Gold!? Weddings are beautiful, but lets not spend a down payment on a house for a party.



*Photo Credit: Laura Moll